Marry Me. And Me.

first_imgSlate Journal 13 June 2013Richard, Vicki, Jim, and Maria are polyamorists: people who engage in what has been described as “consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy.” Unlike polygyny, where one man is married to multiple women, most polyamorists aren’t motived by religion. Instead, they describe their relationships in language that should be familiar to anyone: It’s just what feels healthy, happy, and natural for them.And despite the stereotype of polyamorists as sexual anarchists who wouldn’t be interested in legal marriage anyway, Robyn Trask, the executive director of polyamory support organization Loving More, said the group’s forthcoming survey found that 65 percent of poly families would choose to legalize their unions if they could, and an additional 20 percent would at least consider the option if it were available.….In either a public or private marital system, extending marriage access to plural families would obviously be very complicated. Why should we even care? Polyamorists are a minority, and they, unlike same-sex couples, arguably choose their lifestyle. It’s easy to ignore or marginalize them. But their families raise fundamental questions about how our government interacts with our sexual and romantic lives. Is marital status the best standard by which to determine access to government benefits, or could we find a better way through marriage privatization? If not, should we wrestle with the implications of government marriage until we find a public solution that is fair to everyone? Whatever the answer, conversations about widespread marriage equality are worth the legal, emotional, and intellectual work it takes to have them.“Our lifestyle isn’t for everybody, but this is what works for us,” said Vicki. “We consider ourselves married. We consider ourselves a family. Sometimes love catches you by surprise. Why do we want to put boundaries around that?” read more

Seven behind-the-scenes problems plaguing Spurs including Poch ‘mood swings’

first_imgTHINGS are going from bad to worse for Tottenham Hotspur.They have just three wins from 11 games this season, were dumped out of the Carabao Cup to League Two Colchester and have already lost in the Premier League to Newcastle, Leicester and Brighton.3 Tottenham have hit a crisis this season, just months after reaching the Champions League finalCredit: Rex FeaturesTheir last away league win was on January 20 – the longest stretch of any of the 20 top-flight clubs.Oh, and they also got thumped 7-2 by Bayern Munich in the Champions League, two weeks after surrendering a 2-0 lead at Olympiakos.It is safe to say Mauricio Pochettino’s men are not having it all their own way and The Athletic reckons there are seven behind-the-scenes factors behind the crisis.NOT TRUSTEDOne dressing room source told The Athletic: “The place is a regime and they’re sick of him. It’s his way or nothing, there is no balance. The players don’t get the impression they are trusted at all.”No wonder some of the long-term players – the likes of Christian Eriksen, Jan Vertonghen and Danny Rose – have all refused to commit their futures to North London.UNDERPAIDIt is no secret Spurs do not pay the big bucks like they do elsewhere at the ‘big six’ clubs, although Harry Kane, Dele Alli and Erik Lamela have signed big long-term deals.Daniel Levy has prioritised the financial stability of the club – he is a businessman, after all – and has repeatedly refused to offer significant pay rises despite improving on-pitch results.3 Daniel Levy has always captained a tight ship at Spurs, refusing to match the big-money contracts available at other clubsCredit: Alamy Live NewsJEALOUSAccording to the article, news of Levy’s £6million annual salary “went down badly” with players who feel they should be on more than they currently are, especially when they look at their counterparts at the likes of Manchester United and even across North London at Arsenal.One source described Levy as “the Mike Ashley of the top of the league” – desperate to get as far as possible by spending as little as possible.OVERWORKEDThe report reckons five years of relentless training and drilling from Poch is beginning to take its toll.Players have complained they do not get enough days off and the intense pressing, high-energy game looks to be causing problems with a number of individual errors and collective team collapses.DEMOTIVATEDPerformances over recent weeks have been weak, drab and generally well below the standard expected and the standard set.There is a distinct lack of fight and hunger on display and Poch is desperately trying to “recover this aggressivity”.FORMATIONPoch’s determination to stick with his favoured 4-4-2 diamond midfield is also causing problems.It leaves the team exposed down the flanks at Moussa Sissoko admitted the players get tired quicker in that shape. 3 There are concerns over manager Mauricio Pochettino, his mood swings and insistence with a diamond midfieldCredit: ReutersLatest Tottenham newsHARRY ALL FOUR ITKane admits Spurs must win EIGHT games to rise into Champions League spotGossipALL GONE PETE TONGVertonghen wanted by host of Italian clubs as long Spurs spell nears endBELOW PARRSpurs suffer blow with Parrott to miss Prem restart after appendix operationPicturedSHIRT STORMNew Spurs 2020/21 home top leaked but angry fans slam silver design as ‘awful”STEP BY STEP’Jose fears for players’ welfare during restart as stars begin ‘pre-season’KAN’T HAVE THATVictor Osimhen keen on Spurs move but only if they sell Kane this summerYOU KAN DO ITKlinsmann quit Spurs to win trophies but says Kane’s better off stayingTURBULENT PAIRINGDrogba and Mido had mid-flight brawl after stewardess prank went wrongMOOD SWINGSThe idea that Pochettino is volatile and unpredictable has only increased this year, especially when he went straight to Barcelona after the Champions League final.His up-and-down, hot-and-cold nature, as well as the speculation linking him with a move away, have reportedly raised concerns at the club.Mauricio Pochettino speaks after Spurs are thrashed 7-2 in the Champions League by Bayern Munichlast_img read more

Canyon star’s commitment takes him to BC

first_imgCompeting in Sunday’s 30th annual Senior High School All-Star game was the final chapter in many prep soccer players’ careers. For Canyon High standout Shane Anderson, representing the East All-Stars offered a step toward a promising future. Canyon missed out on the Southern Section Div. II playoffs, so Anderson hadn’t played in a competitive atmosphere in three weeks. His appearance Sunday at Monrovia High was the start of preparation to play next fall at Boston College. “I’m as excited as I am nervous,” said Anderson, 17, an All-Foothill League first-team defender. “It’s going to be difficult, but I’m going to work as hard as I can to earn a spot and keep it.” With Hart standout Matt Valaika electing to put away his soccer cleats in favor of baseball spikes when he attends UC Santa Barbara, Anderson has established himself as the top boys’ soccer recruit out of the Santa Clarita Valley this season. “It’s going to be great competition,” said Anderson, who plays for Santa Anita Soccer Club’s Futbol Club Barcelona Stampede in the under-19 Premier Division. “I know I’m going to be expected to take (my game) to another level in order to play. “Last year was the (first) year I played Premier, but it definitely helped me with my speed of play. I think it’s helped with my fitness and my training and getting the experience of playing the game in (college-type) situations.” Boston College struggled last fall – the Eagles were 0-6-2 in the ACC, 5-8-2 overall – but Savage believes being the competitive atmosphere will bring out the best in Anderson. “They play in a great conference where some of the best soccer in the country is being played,” Savage said. “What a great experience to be able to take part in. To have the courage to travel halfway across the world to do something you love is a wonderful thing.” Anderson is planning to study business and finance. “Boston College is really good academically, which was important to me, since soccer might not always be there,” he said. “I wanted to be able to use soccer as a steppingstone.” Erik Boal, (818) 713-3607 [email protected] 160Want local news?Sign up for the Localist and stay informed Something went wrong. Please try again.subscribeCongratulations! You’re all set! AD Quality Auto 360p 720p 1080p Top articles1/5READ MORECasino Insider: Here’s a look at San Manuel’s new high limit rooms, Asian restaurant After watching former teammate Michael Clegg continue his soccer career at St. Mary’s last fall, Anderson wanted a chance to play Division I soccer. “Especially after seeing (Michael) go on to the next level, it made me want to go on even more,” said Anderson, who joined teammates Spencer Tripp and Kevin Vensko on the all-league team. “I didn’t want to be left behind.” Canyon coach Khris Savage, a former UC Santa Barbara standout, said Anderson’s drive set him apart from his peers. “I’m really proud of him, because he’s the kid out of this group of seniors that’s going on to the next level,” said Savage, whose team finished fourth, behind Hart, Valencia and Saugus. “At the beginning of the year, all of the seniors said they wanted to play in college, but then the reality sets in, and you only have one or two guys like Shane who are willing to make the commitment and the sacrifice to see it through.” Anderson, who was recruited by Cal State Bakersfield and Cal State L.A. before Boston College began pursing him, knew he couldn’t pass up an opportunity to compete in the Atlantic Coast Conference, arguably the nation’s finest men’s soccer conference. last_img read more